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Relational styles are not enough. We need additional models to account for the complexity of intimate relationships that overlap in severity with relational styles. Here is where the issue of comorbidity comes into play.

The selfhood model has implications not only for classifications of personality and gender differences but also for classifications of personality, couple, family relationships, criminality, and psychopathology.

If goal theorists, as well as other theorists of intentions, values, attitudes, beliefs, needs, and wants were to use the construct of importance as underlying their constructs, then their conceptualizations would become much more closely related to the present model of priorities.

The model presented here lacks empirical support and is based strictly on my clinical observations of couples and families. It should be evaluated by others impressionistically at first, but, eventually, if found valid in the clinic, a more specific and repeatable way to evaluate it will be necessary to either support or invalidate this model.

This triangle is deadly and difficult to break before respondents can assume a more constructive and conductive role in their intimate relationships. This is why to help break it one needs to rely on more than just words. This triangle needs to be structured and prescribed in writing to ensure that enough repetition will take place before partners or family members become painfully aware of its deleterious consequences on themselves and on each other. Only after they become aware of this triangle can they decide to give up being part of it. Only after they give it up can they learn to relate with each other in more constructive ways.

“It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.” Love and hurts are intertwined, we only hurt and are hurt by those we love because they are important to us and what they say and do becomes an indication of our and their importance. A specific and concrete definition of intimacy defined as sharing of joys, hurts, and fears of being hurt has been productive, if not successful, in creating distance programmed writing, i.e., workbooks, with f2f approaches to improve intimacy. How we deal with (approach, face, confront, access, process, and express) hurt feelings in the self determines a great deal how we relate in intimate as well as in nonintimate relationships.

Life is a continuously negotiated process within the context of intimate and nonintimate relationships. However, as indicated here, the ability to negotiate, although necessary, is not sufficient to achieve intimacy in intimate relationships.

A concluding summary model integrates the various models of the theory. Whether this model is useful remains to be seen. Another model of the theory compares selfhood well conceptually by bridging the gap between models of internal, intrapsychic dimensions with models of how families function or dysfunction.

A beginning step has been made in trying to evaluate the models of this theory in the laboratory as well as in primary, secondary, and tertiary settings. However, a great deal of work still needs to be done to evaluate whether this theory and its models are valid.

A beginning step has been made in trying to evaluate the models of this theory in the laboratory as well as in primary, secondary, and tertiary settings. However, a great deal of work still needs to be done to evaluate whether this theory and its models are valid.